After looking at some of the dramatic situations of my friends in the past and comparing them to my own, I'm starting to believe that I've avoided most situations of drama involving the mixture of friendship and romance. This is a sort of a mental inventory of what I've done and haven't done which has prevented me from such situations.
1. I don't date my friends' exes.
2. I don't usually date people that go to the same school as I do (two experiences are enough, thank you!)
3. I don't like pulling my friends into vendettas against my exes.
4. I eventually become friends again with some of my exes.
5. If my friends were friends with my ex, I don't demand them to choose between them and me.
6. If I choose to romantically pursue someone in my circle of friends, it's only after careful consideration of such pairing.
7. I don't like remaining angry with people.
8. While sometimes I hold grudges against exes and imagine ways of telling them off or getting revenge, I don't carry them out. They're not going to learn from an outright attack.
9. If I complain about said ex, I don't make shit up or exaggerate to the ninth level on it, it's all true. If I speculate on them, that's all it is, speculation, not fact.
I don't know, just listening to the shit that my boy has to put up with from not only his ex, but his ex's ex/his former friend, and anybody else who's afraid of contradicting the two, I don't know how much more faith I can have in humans. The maliciousness is just plain scary! But on the other hand, it makes me glad that I have the friends that I do. I have a favor to ask of you guys, if you know Simon and see him with me or not, engage him in conversation, get to know him, invite him to hang out or something. He needs to know that not only are there are better people in the world, but also that he is not the shitbag that certain people in his life are making him out to be.
Current Mood: |
annoyed |